What really makes us who we are? Pop-psych talks about Nature vs. Nurture, but shouldn’t there be another category?
Current discussions of genetics are the ultimate example of “Nature”: Are we destined to do certain things? Do our parents and their parents, by their simple existence, make up the sum of who we are? The truth is, while we can identify some of the genetic code, we are still at a loss as to exactly what it means. There is even some question as to whether or not genetic code has the ability to change as a person grows.
To find a good example of Nurture you don’t have to look farther than the many parenting books on the market. A lot of the books require you to do the right things, in the right order, at the right time or else your children will be doomed.
While it is true that you should definitely take good care of your children, and we have to deal with some things in our lives that we can’t change, are we not, on another level, ultimately responsible for our own actions?
I think there should be another category called “Life Choices” or “Self-Induced Torture”. I really think that in spite of everything we are responsible for our own actions, even bad choices. Let me know what you think.